Of a Life Lived in the Limelight and its Loss

49 thoughts on “Of a Life Lived in the Limelight and its Loss”

  1. A lovely post to share your sentiments. An e-interview seems to have been a delightful opportunity, especially for someone like him! At least you had that memorable experience. 😊

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  2. Interviewing him via email is a big thing 😊 I’m never shocked by celebrity deaths because I didn’t know them, it seems a it hypocritical sometimes to be more shocked by them than the kids dying in wars every day. Anyway, for some reason Anthony Bourdain’s death, and that it was a suicide, shocked me. And saddened me. He voted to go. I wonder if it was an impulse or calculated over a long period of time. On the outside, he appeared to be living life as he wanted… you never know.

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    1. You are right about the fact that we do not know them. I hear you about the casualties of wars, for there is only deep sorrow for lives that are extinguished with no hope, but I do hope sorrow does not have to be exclusive. You got ‘voted’ alright. Who knows what goes on in the life of others?

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  3. It is sad to read about the loss of lives in such a manner .People in limelight seem like they have it all, but may not be .It is wonderful to know that you got an opportunity to interview him and can cherish those memories.

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    1. It is Nisha. Thank you, you are kind. A fleeting touch with the man who is an inspiration to me, no matter how it ended. The limelight is indeed never what it is made to be.It is a double-edged sword. xx

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  4. The loss of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain have left me feeling sad, not because of their celebrity but because of their humanness…what a lovely memory to have knowing that you connected with this urban poet in the world via words even if you were unable to meet him in real-time, thank you for sharing your poignant words!

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    1. Dear Kim, it is a disquieting thing when people opt out of the race. You keep wondering what happened. For we will hardly know, shall we? But here’s to their memories and rich legacies. xx

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  5. Very poignant Arundhati! Your email connection with the man you admired is yours for you to keep forever! I too was in awe of his life and his work and it is a sad day indeed! RIP Anthony Bourdain

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  6. It’s always terribly sad when someone feels that death is the only way to go. There have been two “celebrity” deaths this week, Bourdain and Kate Spade. No one knows what prompted these tortured souls and, of course, they won’t have been the only ones.

    That was a fitting tribute Dippy!

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    1. Merci Sheree. It is a disquieting feeling indeed. Celebrity costs them much that we do not know about, it seems.
      You have a good weekend. xx

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  7. Don’t do yourself down – Bourdain wouldn’t have. You did interview him by email which means, put purely, you posed questions and he answered them. That is closer than most got to this extraordinary rich tapestried man. I too have worked closely with celebrity (whatever the hell that means) for much of my adult life and in the end you do become aware of the simple truth that we are all human. Anthony Bourdain took his own life. Who knows why. There will be theories and there will be questions and answers of those closest to him and there will be a sentence passed on his life. But the fact is that it is bloody tragic. Whatever the verdict he was loved and he has left a scar on the hearts he cared for most which I know will never heal. I wish him peace now. Because for a person to be so tormented and tortured that they consider and carry out a suicide that is surely what they are seeking. This is a beautifully written, gutsy, ballsy and eloquently gentle piece of writing. Go as gently yourself, dear DD.

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    1. I hate the judgement and the thought of the sentence. It is not something that anyone wants to do – opt out. And we never know what pushed anyone to the edge. Who are we to pass a sentence on another who has given us years of brilliant work? Really Osyth, I am pained by his loss. He was and shall continue to be my role model.

      Thank you for your beautiful words.

      One of his quotes to sign off with. “I don’t know about ‘charmed.’ But I’m still here — on my third life or maybe fourth. Who knows? I should’ve died in my 20s. I became successful in my 40s. I became a dad in my 50s. I feel like I’ve stolen a car — a really nice car — and I keep looking in the rearview mirror for flashing lights. But there’s nothing yet.”

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  8. I’m seldom lost for words but to be honest, I am finding this one particularly difficult to articulate. I will stop now because I will only spoil your remarkable tribute with clumsy affectations. xx

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    1. Thanks Tracey, I cannot even comprehend it. It is not as if I knew him and yet…You have a good week ahead. xx

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  9. The fact is you got to interview him, even through email. You had the opportunity to share something special with him and that you will always remember. It is very sad Arundhati. We just don’t know how others suffer deep down. He will definitely be missed. 😦

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    1. Thanks Margit. I think it will take some time before I can wrap my head around it. Have a good week, girl. xx

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  10. Sad and thoughtful piece, Dippy. Life can be hell sometimes but there’s usually hope. Who knows what was in these two heads but you can only wish them peace.

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    1. Thank you Jo. I hear you. How have you been? I have been pretty slow on blogging because I am trying to finish a book I have been working on for some time. Have you moved finally to the Algarve?

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      1. Hiya hon. 🙂 🙂 No, not moving permanently till the autumn. Just come back from a week in Poland, visiting family, and am off to my daughter’s in Nottingham later this week. Then the Algarve for a week- just to make sure it’s still there. 🙂 Quite a lot of happenings in the UK over the summer so it’ll soon fly. Good luck with the book. Fiction?

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      2. Autumn will be here in a jiffy. Time is really flying and I wish I could trap it in a jar. Poland is so pretty and the food delicious, especially their love for mushrooms. Where were you in Poland? I believe I saw Warsaw on your insta page.
        Algarve for a week sounds delightful before you move bag and baggage.
        Enjoy Nottingham, I have nice memories of it.
        The book is non-fiction. A travel book (no surprises). 🙂

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      3. Zawady…sounds interesting and different from the usual Polish names? Our extra was Zakopane in the Tatras which was thanks to a wonderful cab driver. Okay, I am voting for summer to linger. xx

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  11. It’s so incredible that you had the opportunity to make a connection with him. What happened is truly heartbreaking and makes you recognise how fragile life is – thank you for sharing your thoughts on such a complex topic xx

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    1. It is a disquieting topic. Brings out such a range of emotions in people, isn’t it? Nothing is right or wrong though, I think. Anyway, thank you for reading and leaving this comment, love. xx

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  12. Super-nice reflection on Bordaine’s death, Dippy-Dotty Girl! I confess my first thought when I heard the news report was, no matter how successful a person may seem from the outside, we never know what demons or what problems they may have inside. It makes me think about reminding myself not to take for granted the good things in my life which may seem mundane. 🙂

    … and, your story about the professor’s declaration that we can only control our own death reminded me that, for me, in the case of my son’s death and my mom’s near-death this Spring, these events were not under their control, and even though my son hoped for a “good death” in which he did not succumb to despair, at the end, when it came suddenly and unexpectedly after being profoundly ill from cancer, he fought to stay alive, he was angry and disconsolate, and in the end his life ended before he was ready. So, maybe death can, and cannot, be controlled, both at the same time, eh? :/

    I really enjoyed this post. Thank you for a peek at your experiences as a journalist and your thoughts about this sad and unfortunate event. 🙂

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    1. Thank you for sharing your experiences of your son and mum, Theresa. It is all so terribly unfair. That all that lies at the end of a life lived over years should be cut short by this event called death. As for control, do we really have it? Do treat the professor’s thoughts as a supposition, for we can never be sure about anything in life. The day I am sure about anything, something happens gradually to overturn it. Nothing is constant it seems. xx

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      1. Thank you, Dippy-Dotty Girl! I appreciate your kind message. 🙂 When I think back to 2013 before my son died and before I really realized what it was like for a beloved family member to die, in spite of all the interventions and medical assistance provided, I had a much different thought towards death. It had been only elderly family members who had passed on, at the more-expected time of life. I’m not sure what all that means, but again, thank you for your kind message! xx

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